The following are real messages and testimonials from people who worked with Hazal:
“I was blessed indeed to come across Hazal Selcuk as I searched for a counselor to support and assist me. I was finishing up nursing school, and making the transition to my next chapter was daunting. I consider myself tuned-in to mine and others’ chi, body awareness, and kinetic sensibility — having a background in massage therapy, movement, and meditation — so you can imagine my delight when I first met Hazal: she presents as very much “in her body” — with graceful, aware, grounded movement.
“Her considerable experience in working with the psyche as reflected in sensory awareness and movement proved an immensely effective tool. For example, she would lead me into thorough grounding and full presence by gently prompting me in relaxed, deep breathing, and awareness of my body throughout: feet on the ground, back against the couch, areas of tension, and then any feelings or images arising. Then she might inquire into what a particular part of my body felt inclined to do: my arms might want to wrap, embrace, and protect myself, or my back wants a tactile sense of support from the wall or pillows.
“Another time a need for some type of containment and wrapping transformed into a profound awareness of a shawl of elder wisdom, representative of my current station in life. In another session, sand tray figurines placed in one area of the office represented my current home in California, and figures placed on the other side represented New Mexico, where I was planning to relocate to start my nursing career. Hazal led me in exploring my thoughts and feelings as I viewed each area; she also suggested I move between them, noticing their relationship to each other, as well as what transpired in between the locales.
“This simple exercise of movement in time and space yielded profound feelings and realizations for me regarding this big and important transition to another state. These are just a few examples of our work together. Ironically, our sessions helped me in a successful move to New Mexico…
“Hazal is a naturally gifted Somatic Movement Therapist.”
“I met Hazal at the clinic where she worked. I was looking for a therapist with complaints of anxiety and panic attacks. After a year of working with her, I decided to tell my psychiatrist that I no longer needed medication. She patiently helped me understand the sources of my fears. In doing so, she helped me find solid resources that kept me safe. At the end of each session with her, I started relating to myself more compassionately as I experienced what peace felt like in my body and soul. Hazal is friendly and professional. I feel enriched and more secure. It has been a great opportunity for me to work with a therapist from a different country.”
“I worked with Hazal both in the context of family therapy and as an individual. As a family, we experienced creative sessions where we could communicate openly with each other. Our children said that they could talk to us more easily after these sessions. Our individual work each time relaxed me physically, mentally, and emotionally, connecting me with aspects of myself that I hadn’t noticed before. On top of the therapy work, Hazal’s cultural diversity has been a very valuable resource for our family.”
“My husband and I miserably lived in a ‘hole’ for many years. Individual and couples therapy did nothing but give us more of a chance to blame and label each other. I was desperate for an intensive and in depth solution.
“I researched and telephone interviewed several options. When I spoke with John Grey on the phone, I knew he was the one. He was booked out for a couple months and I was desperate for an earlier date. He suggested Hazal, and reassured me that she could help us.
“As we did our prep work, we both grew excited knowing our relationship would be forever changed for the better.
“My excitement turned to nervous anxiety a few hours before the first session. Hazal quickly made us both feel at ease. She quietly allowed us to each blame the other for about 15 minutes and then we stopped as she began to work her magic. The first three hours went by so easily as we began to learn a new productive and loving way of communicating. My tears overflowed.
“Over the course of the next two days, our old ways had flipped for the better and for the first time in years, I trust and feel protected by my husband.
“I looked at Hazal several times throughout our few days and told her, ‘Hazal you are SO GOOD.’ She is a master of teaching change and how to express true fears and feelings. Her voice and mannerisms are so soothing. Her technique and exercises are eye opening.
“My husband and I are now feeling like two different people with a new loving and healthy relationship. Our children, employees, friends, and even pets are for sure going to notice the huge difference in us!!”
—Kim T
“Hazal was instrumental to healing our marriage. Her guidance helped both of us get deeply in touch with our core feelings. She had a great healing energy and strong instinct about each of our personalities and needs. Thank you so much for giving us renewed connection in our marriage.”
“My wife and I have tried multiple marriage therapists in our 14 years of marriage. Hazal has been the BEST by far. She was the most intuitive and positive healing therapist I’ve ever encountered in my life. I now feel truly healed from years of hurt, and I now feel like we have real, practical, holistic solutions to use in our day-to-day marriage problems. I highly recommend Hazal.”
“Our intensive with Hazal was amazing. I was skeptical at first, and my partner was actually ready to cancel! But we are both so glad we came because now we’re feeling hopeful again and back in love with each other. And we have learned the tools to stay connected. This has changed how we view each other, and I even experienced a shift in me in how I view myself, which is so positive.”
“Our online sessions with Hazal, equally as good as being with her in person, have been nothing short of revealing in terms of personal development and, subsequently, unifying for our marriage. Sessions with Hazal have also helped me realize that in a marriage your partner can help you heal and filter out the behaviors that no longer serve you (just one of the many, many lessons from Hazal). In other words, your connection to your partner is intricately linked to your healing and beyond that can elevate you to a higher vibe.
“I found an unexpected bonus in our work with Hazal and that is the layers of cultural diversity her own personal experiences afford; she has an innate grasp of factors that perhaps a monocultural therapist might not be able to offer. That additional richness of understanding, along with her amazing ability to weave you and your partner toward healing — artfully providing what you need when you need it — it might even make you wonder if she is clairvoyant (joking!).
“In seriousness, Hazal skillfully guides you through your current phase of ‘awareness’, extending what you need, when you need it, all while raising you to levels of understanding you never imagined possible for you and your partner. I honestly cannot emphasize this enough, if you are hesitating, take the leap and work with Hazal. I am beyond grateful for her, she helped me to arrive to realizations that assisted me in saving myself and starting a new phase in my 25-year marriage.
“I would recommend her for all stages of marriage; actually my hope is, when the time comes, to gift each of my sons a 3 day retreat so they learn the keys of communication to establishing their best possible life in their marriage, with an understanding of themselves and how to securely function with their partner.”
—Joan L
“The work we did with you has made an incredible difference in our life and relationship.”
“Hazal allowed me to see into my spouse’s eyes and soul in a way I had forgotten how to do. It gave us both new tools and techniques to use this vulnerable insight in a positive, constructive way.”
“This intensive program was soul food for our relationship!! From the simple way to understand attachment and how it affects couples to the tools we learned to repair, Hazal gave us infinite hope! I came in mad, hurt and not liking my partner. Doubtful a weekend would change much…. How wrong I was! I see the man I loved and a new person to care for! Thank you for the love medicine.”
“Dear Hazal,
“Allow us to express our gratitude for helping us with what matters the most in our lives. We are holding the wisdom you’ve shared with us very close to our hearts, as it has been guiding us.
“We have been very supportive of each other and have effectively put in practice your tools. Many things have happened as a result. We realize our partner is there to support us. We find what we need in our partner.
“We are quite surprised by how deep your teachings have touched us, allowing us to feel safe together, calming our fears at the very moment in which they are triggered — or as soon as it becomes possible.
“A big, sincere ‘Thank You!'”
—H and M
“Working with Hazal was a gift. She has the ability to intuitively translate and understand different modes of information access and processing.”
“Hazal’s use of interactive, engaging and hands on techniques to help couples center and connect in a mindful way provide a solid foundation upon which to repair and build a strong, stable relationship.”
“We were looking for ways out of our negative cycle — ways to move toward each other in the face of conflict — and this intensive program gave us those. Hazal’s very professional, calm and welcoming demeanor, comfort and ease with us as couples, all helped me feel comfortable in finding a way through what would otherwise have been tough territory.”
“You don’t know what you don’t know”, a thought I contemplated and repeated often since attending the Healing Couples week-end retreat in the face of infidelity in our 24-year marriage. The retreat included couples of varying ages & years together, the surface issues differed, but we all were guided to the realization that the deep heart work and couple connection needed to become our new focus. With decades of experience assisting married couples, Hazal and John gently directed us to understanding that our true essence could flourish, and we could achieve that bond which we so deeply long for and need in a marriage.
“After the realization, the next question is how? John and Hazal facilitated numerous exercises to work on communication and establishing that genuine connection. The beauty of the ‘tool box’ is the variety; we were provided with many options, being able to pick and choose those which resonated with our specific personalities.
“To share a bit more on our personal situation, prior to the retreat neither myself nor my husband had ever been to therapy. This was not based on resistance but more, as I mentioned at the outset, we hadn’t been cognizant of the gravity of our disconnection. In hindsight, I only wish we had recognized sooner that we had been merely living as ‘roommates’ — raising a family & working in our business, rather than functioning as a deeply connected couple, which is really what both of us want and need.
“The option of post-retreat sessions is key because it is human nature to fall into old patterns. In our case, we also needed deeper work to heal trust issues & past traumas. Regarding my experience, Hazal expertly guided me to the realization that my old coping tactics, particularly those centered on ‘pulling up your bootstraps and moving on’, were no longer serving me. I honestly physically feel that constant weight on my chest lifted; new manners of clear and open communication, in turn, have also helped me in my relationships with others, too.
“My husband and I have continued to work with Hazal online now for over a year, I cannot speak highly enough to her professionalism, expertise, and truly innate ability to guide couples toward a quality marriage, and subsequently towards true happiness. Is the work easy? Not always. Is it worth it? 100%. Do you and your partner deserve the results of your work with Hazal? — expanded love along with huge leaps in personal & couple development — absolutely.”
—J.S.
“Our intensive proved to be an immensely beautiful experience, which provided very positive tools to repair crucial aspects of our relationship — through a sensible and thorough method. Hazal is an exceptional professional. We would recommend this retreat to any couple that needs guidance.”
“This exceeded all expectations. I didn’t expect to go home with such common sense practical tools to help our relationship. Hazal was amazing! The body of work, put together with a warm style was effective and compelling. I’m so happy to have done this and fully optimistic about our use of the techniques.”
“I was really skeptical about the intensive program with Hazal. However, within the first five minutes, I knew we were in the right place. I now have hope for our marriage, our future, and it’s all because I have the tools and the step-by-step process to repair and prevent upsets. I highly recommend this program to couples that have tried everything and failed.”
“Our online intensive with Hazal was awesome! We are so glad we signed up for a retreat with her.
“It went by remarkably fast. The content and the process of working with her was very rich.
“And doing the retreat on Zoom was totally fine… if not better. Being in our own space made us feel very comfortable.
“This was the perfect gift for our anniversary!”
—James M
“Just leaving a weekend intensive with Hazal with a renewed sense of positivity and optimism. We have specific tools and techniques to help us repair our communication.”
“I highly recommend an intensive with Hazal. I was hesitant to come, believing there was no hope! But on day two of the program I had a significant break-through. Both my husband and I agree that we are now hopeful and excited for the future of our marriage.”
“Hazal’s intensive program provided us with tools and resources that restored our relationship. It provided hope to us that we can both be happy and secure with each other. We strongly recommend that any couple that wishes to improve their home life consider working with Hazal..”
“At the end of the first day I told my wife that this is the first time I felt this good in many years. And she said, ‘Me too!’ We didn’t speak further, not to jinx it.
“This has been amazing. Doing it over Zoom was totally fine. Being in our own turf made everything feel safer. We felt like a team right off the bat.
“Thank you for the great work, for the great program and all the tools. We now know how to move forward.”
—Jordan G
“In all honesty, I didn’t know what to expect, and didn’t think our issues could be resolved in just three days. However, this weekend went way above my expectations. Hazal guided us in a very intuitive flow, and we came away with a much better understanding of what is really going on, and we got practical tools to keep working on this. Thank you for your wisdom and guidance!”
“I thought the content of this program was far superior to any book or therapy I’ve ever experienced. Hazal’s calm and empathetic approach and energy created a safe environment for open communication. I’m grateful to have had the opportunity; my wife and I are very optimistic about our future together. Thank you for your wisdom!”
“Mi esposa y yo tenemos 25 años de casados, y desde hace un año que comenzamos a tener terapia conyugal con Hazal nuestra relación marital no solo se ha renovado si no que ha cambiado de manera significativa. Hazal nos ha enseñado diversas herramientas muy prácticas y sencillas que hoy en día utilizamos para elevar nuestra relación de pareja y nos ha ayudado a tomar conciencia de situaciones que dejamos pasar durante muchos años y que con el tiempo se convirtieron en piedras incómodas que obstaculizaron una comunicación equilibrada llevándome a cometer errores muy importantes con mi pareja que incluso nos pudo llevar a la separación. Desde que conocimos a Hazal nos ha ayudado a encontrar el camino del entendimiento, respeto, y equilibrio emocional en pareja. En lo personal me siento como un mejor compañero con la energía y entusiasmo de cuando estaba recién casado y con mucha esperanza renovada de completar una vida feliz al lado de mi esposa. Muchas gracias a Hazal por toda la ayuda y la recomiendo totalmente a cualquier pareja que busque la felicidad completa en su matrimonio independientemente del tiempo que tengan de estar casados.”
“My wife and I are married 25 years and started couple therapy with Hazal since last year, our marriage has not only been renewed but has changed in significant ways. Hazal has shown us diverse, practical, and simple tools which we use today to elevate our partnership and which have helped us become conscious of situations that we let happen for many years, uncomfortable ‘stones’ that obstructed a balanced communication, leading me to make serious errors with my wife that could have brought us to separate. Since we met Hazal, she has helped us find a path of understanding, respect, and emotional balance in our relationship. Personally, I feel I am a better partner, with the energy and enthusiasm of when we were newly married, with a lot of renewed hope of having a happy life by my wife’s side. Many thanks to Hazal for all the help; I completely recommend her to any couple seeking total happiness in their marriage, independent of the time they have been married.”
—C.N.